They are all wonderful in their own ways. I just use this as an example of how comparing is unfair and all of their personalities can be desired by everyone if you allow yourself to look beyond your lack of desire. You can want to be Phoebe because of her strange sense of humor. You can love her strength and her quirkiness. Or Ross’ type of sense of humor. If this is your type of humor in the moment, you can love yourself for your sweet, kid like manner. Or you can love the moments when you complain in a cute quirky way like Rachel. Or Monica with her sense of humor with a lot of energy. And then there is Chandler where you seriousness and hilarity meet together into a well balanced medium. Look at yourself the way I looked at everyone here. There is something to love in everything, even if they are polar opposites.