Try This (“Should Statements”)

This post is all about “should statements.” I was trying to think logically about how I messed up at work yesterday and at first I did well. Then the day went on and I started to believe another thought, “You should have done better.” Then I channeled everything that happened that day. “No, actually I should NOT have done better. I now have this memory, this BIG memory because of what happened from my mess up, and I will most likely never make the mistake again.” I mean, I might make the same mistake again but since the memory of my mess up is so big in my mind, the probability of doing it again goes drastically down. So maybe I “should” have done differently, but I really should not have done differently if you see what I mean. Anything that could have a “should statement” in front of it, is just a barrier to learning something that will help you so much in the long run. This memory of this mess up is now in my mind. So if anyone tells me I should or should not do something, I will just say (or think to myself), “The word should is the barrier to best lesson I could learn.” The best lesson because mistakes are harder to forget. So much different than looking at a lesson on a chalkboard. So don’t just push should statements out of your mind, channel them the opposite direction. You “shouldn’t” have made that mistake at work? Well you learned something out of it so maybe you should have.

PS: The way I came up with this post is because I wanted to write something. I thought really hard about my dilemma. Harder than I would if I just wanted to be happy. I didn’t want to turn my emotions into art and be creative because being creative to me can sometimes makes things worse if I am in a bad state. So I decided to think of something to blog about and I came up with this gem of a coping skill. (Well really an extra little twist to this already known coping skill). Basically I knew I wanted to write something in my time of insecurity because feeling creative or feeling smart could help me with my problems and I wanted to showcase the things I know. So I wrote about it and came up with something else. If you have no other motivation for using coping skills, try to remember how good it feels to blog about your intelligence and what you came up with on your own. That could be motivation in itself to think positively like it motivated me to change my “should statements.”


3 thoughts on “Try This (“Should Statements”)

  1. Nice twist on this coping skill. Messing up things now and again happens and it is a learning experience. The first time I messed up a project at work was when I was drawing up a design for a a forming die. Welllll, I kind of forgot one very small but very important detail and ended up with a major headache! It happens and it is what it is. The boss-man was cool about. We even laughed about it later.

    We can always say “I should have done this or that”. If I kept saying that at this pint in my life there would be regrets the hight of Sears Tower!!! (Willis Tower for the younger folks.) My point; it is an experience to learn from and then move on. Owe up to the fact you messed up and endeavour to do better next time.

    Oh, and do not be too hard on yourself! 😜

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    1. I’m glad you got a chance to laugh about it! I felt what happened would be something we could laugh at, at first but then I began to overthink it. Darn those overthinking moments! But it is a learning experience! Isn’t learning so much better when you have a story to go with how you learned your lesson though?

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